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Langley Divorce Lawyer, Surrey Family Law and Surrey Family Lawyer Advice and Vancouver and Fort St John Family Law Lawyers- Best Practices

Friday, May 6th, 2011

Christy Clark and Lorne MacLean Langley divorce lawyer and Surrey Family lawyer at the MacLean Law Group's Fort St John BC law office


All too often Surrey BC Family Lawyers, Langley BC family and divorce lawyers and Surrey family law lawyers and their Surrey BC separated or divorcing Langley BC family law clients can lose sight of the need for respect and civility in their Greater Vancouver and Langley, Delta and Surrey BC family law case. A Langley BC divorce, Surrey family law child custody, Vancouver spousal support, or Fort St John BC property division and family asset case is already stressful enough without rude conduct that inflames the BC family law situation and prevents a prompt BC divorce settlement. Here is a list of Vancouver BC Family Law Best Practices that will be presented for approval at the June Provincial Council meeting of the CBA BC. We as Vancouver, Surrey and Fort St John family lawyers wholly agree with these practices and I tell my clients there is a difference between being rude and firm.

BEST PRACTICE GUIDELINES FOR LAWYERS PRACTICING FAMILY LAW

Lawyers involved in a family law dispute should strive to ensure it is conducted in the following manner:
1. Lawyers should conduct themselves in a manner that is constructive, respectful and seeks to minimize conflict and should encourage their clients to do likewise.
2. Lawyers should strive to remain objective at all times, and not to over-identify with their clients or be unduly influenced by the emotions of the moment.
3. Lawyers should avoid using inflammatory language in spoken or written communications, and should encourage their clients to do likewise.
4. Lawyers should caution their clients about the limited relevance of allegations or evidence of conduct.
5. Lawyers should avoid actions that have the sole or predominant purpose of hindering, delaying or bullying an opposing party, and should encourage their clients to do likewise.
6. Lawyers cannot participate in, and should caution their clients against, any actions that are dishonest, misleading or undertaken for an improper purpose.
7. Lawyers should keep their clients advised of, and encourage their clients to consider, at all stages of the dispute:

a. the risks and costs of any proposed actions or communications;
b. both short and long term consequences;
c. the consequences for any children involved; and
d. the importance of court orders or agreements.

8. Lawyers should advise their clients that their clients are in a position of trust in relation to their children, and that
a. it is important for the client to put the children’s interests before their own; and b. failing to do so may have a significant impact on both the children’s well-being and the
client’s case.
9. Lawyers should advise their clients of and encourage them to consider, at all stages of the dispute, all available and suitable resources for resolving the dispute, in or out of court.

1 Lawyers are not obliged to assist persons who are being disrespectful or abusive.

BC High Conflict Child Custody Parental Alienation- Levels of Alienation

Saturday, February 19th, 2011

Lorne MacLean, BC Child Custody Lawyer, in Victoria BC handling a parental alienation case


Lorne MacLean and Ari Wormeli are just finishing week 4 of a highly contested BC parental alienation and or estrangement case. These cases require a tremendous amount of work to uncover which aspect and or parent is causing the children to ally with one against visiting the other parent. Such cases are heartbreaking below we set out what types of alienation can exist as well as what types of alienating parents may be involved.

LEVELS OF SEVERITY OF PA

When parental alienation is mild, the child resists contact with the alienated parent, but enjoys his relationship with that parent once parenting time is underway. The child may have a strong, healthy relationship with both parents, even though the child recites criticisms of the alienated parent.

When parental alienation reaches a moderate degree of severity, the child strongly resists contact and is persistently oppositional during parenting time with the alienated parent. The child is likely to have a mildly to moderately pathological relationship with the preferred parent.

When parental alienation is at a severe degree of intensity, the child strongly and persistently resists contact and may hide or run away to avoid seeing the alienated parent. The child’s behavior is driven by a firmly held, false belief that the alienated parent is evil, dangerous, or worthless. The child is likely to have a strong, severely pathological relationship with the preferred parent, perhaps sharing a paranoid worldview.

What are the levels of intensity of alienating behavior?
 
In his book, Divorce Casualties: Protecting Your Children from Parental Alienation, Douglas Darnall (1998) proposed a three-tier classification system, now in common use, that distinguishes between naïve, active and obsessed alienators:

Naïve alienators make negative comments about the other parent but without serious intent to undermine the child’s relationship with that parent. Their negative comments tend to be careless remarks, and, in general, naïve alienators support the child’s relationship with the other parent.
 
Active alienators are more consistent and determined in their alienating behaviors. There is an intentional desire to criticize and undermine the targeted parent. Deep down, however, active alienators realize that what they are doing is wrong and potentially harmful to the child.

Obsessed alienators are determined to destroy the child’s relationship with the targeted parent. Obsessed alienators are extremists. They pressure the child to adopt their own negative view of the targeted parent, put much pressure on the child to emphatically reject the targeted parent, and cannot tolerate a good relationship between the child and the targeted parent.

What are the recommended treatments for parental alienation?
 
When parental alienation is properly recognized, that condition is preventable and treatable in many instances. The appropriate treatment is determined partly by the severity of the parental alienation manifested by the child and partly by the intensity of the alienating behaviors manifested by the alienating parent.
 
If the parental alienation is mild, the treatment can be accomplished by a parenting coordinator who helps the parents communicate in a constructive manner and gives them specific advice regarding their approach to the child’s activities with the alienated parent.
 
If the parental alienation is moderate, the treatment typically includes more intensive therapy for the child, mother, and father, as well as meetings with the parenting coordinator. If there are multiple therapists involved with the divorced family, they must agree regarding the nature of the problem and the goals of the treatment (Darnall, 2010).

If the parental alienation is severe, traditional forms of psychotherapy may not be effective. As time goes on, children with parental alienation become intractable in their false beliefs and their mental condition resembles that of individuals with delusional disorder. If the parental alienation is severe, it has usually been induced by an obsessed, alienating parent. Also, in some cases of moderate parental alienation, the cause of the condition is an obsessed, alienating parent. In both moderate and severe cases of parental alienation – when it is caused by an obsessed, alienating parent – it is necessary to greatly reduce or even eliminate the child’s exposure to that parent. See Gardner (2001), Darnall (2010), Warshak (2001, 2010), and Warshak and Otis (2010).
 
In such cases – when the parental alienation has been caused by an obsessed, alienating parent – it is necessary to transfer the children’s custody from the alienating parent to the custody of the alienated parent or perhaps to the temporary custody of a neutral caregiver. Once the child has been removed from the influence of the alienating parent, it is possible to help the child re-establish a comfortable, healthy relationship with the alienated parent. After that has occurred, it should be possible to allow contact gradually with the alienating parent, although that parenting time may need to be supervised. The ultimate goal is for the child to have a good relationship with both parents.

BC WISHES OF THE CHILD IN BC CHILD CUSTODY AND BC PARENTING TIME CASES BECOMES VERY IMPORTANT UNDER NEW BC LEGISLATION AND NEW CHILD CUSTODY DECISION

Tuesday, January 11th, 2011

Photo of Lorne MacLean managing partner at MFLG and the Attorney General lawyers For the New BC Family Legislation

In earlier blog posts we have discussed how BC child custody decision making has evolved from excluding the child to protect them from stress to a new regime of believing children do better after marriage breakdown in child custody cases if they are involved. Of course the concern of how a child’s wishes have been influenced and the maturity of the child as well as whether the child wishes to refrain from telling the court their view must be weighed carefully. Further, what happens if a child changes there wishes 2 weeks after the hearing and then back again and so on. Will this new approach lead to parents frantically lobbying their children to live with them?

Here is the latest decision from Judge Martinson which amplifies her earlier decisions she has given in this regard.

Take note of how these wishes may be obtained including the Judge meeting directly with the children something which many judges are not comfortable with.

Click here for the full decision

New BC Child Custody Moving Away Rules Coming-BC Child Relocation and BC Child Mobility

Sunday, October 10th, 2010

What is the test for moving away in a child custody case in BC? As BC Family Law and child custody and access lawyers in Vancouver and Fort St. John, BC one of the most heart wrenching family and BC child custody cases we see occurs when one parent wants to, or is required to, move away with the child from the other parent. Our past articles have discussed the current rules for child relocation also known as child mobility. The BC government has issued a new Family Relations Act Reform White Paper that establishes notice provisions to allow parties to agree to the move or failing that to give each party time to deal with the issue in the courts. The new proposals also contain factors to be considered and onus provisions that differ with the level of child raising involvement of both parents.

The Divorce Act and legislation in Alberta and Saskatchewan allow for orders that establish parenting arrangements to also include provisions requiring notice of a proposed move of a child. Saskatchewan’s Children’s Law Act, 1997,106 and the Divorce Act107 require 30 days notice while Alberta’s Family Law Act108 requires 60 days notice. A notice period of less than 60 days was considered an insufficient period of time for cooperative discussions to take place and 60 days was seen as sufficient time to prepare for a hearing if settlement was not possible.
The second prong of the proposed policy is to include a child-centred definition of relocation that takes into account the specific circumstances of individual families. A child-centred definition of relocation that focuses on the impact of the proposed move on the child’s primary relationships avoids the potential arbitrariness of distinctions drawn on threshold distances, travel times or borders.
The third prong is to legislate specific factors that a judge must and must not consider and introduce the following presumptions:
 Where the day-to-day care of the child is not equal or substantially equal, the initial burden is on the guardian who wants to move with the child to show that the proposed move is in good faith and that reasonable efforts have been made to find ways to preserve the relationship with the other guardian(s) and with others who are significant to the child. If this initial burden is met, then the onus shifts to the other guardian to prove that the proposed move is not in the child’s best interests.
 Where the day-to-day care of the child is equal or substantially equal, the burden is on the guardian who wants to move with the child to show that the proposed move is in good faith and is in the child’s best interests.
106 SK Children’s Law Act, 1997, Above Note 33, s. 6(6). 107 CAN Divorce Act, Above Note 2, s. 16(7). 108 AB Family Law Act, Above Note 32, s. 33(2).
71White Paper on Family Relations Act Reform 2010
When assessing good faith, it is proposed that judges be directed to consider: the reasons for the move; the likelihood it would enhance the general quality of life of the child and the guardian proposing the move, including improved financial, emotional or educational opportunities; and any existing restrictions on relocation in an order or agreement. However, judges would be prohibited from considering whether a guardian proposing a move with a child would relocate without the child in any event.
If a judge grants an order in favour of relocation, he or she may also order reasonable security (e.g., posting of a bond) to ensure the relocating guardian complies with orders designed to preserve the relationship between the child and the other guardian(s) or people significant to the child.
The granting of a relocation application will likely necessitate a change in the parenting arrangements for a child, like parenting time schedules. The proposed new Act allows a judge to make those changes needed to facilitate the new reality without the need to establish a change in circumstance. However, the judge will be limited to making changes only insofar as needed to accommodate the move and is directed to preserve the existing parenting arrangements to the greatest extent possible. This responds to the criticism that relocation applications may evolve into an unintended re-examination of the entire parenting arrangement. The concern is that previous agreements or court orders regarding which guardian is best to exercise particular responsibilities should not be re-examined simply because the residence of one of the adults and the child is to be different.
On the flip side, if the judge does not grant the request for a relocation order, the proposed move is not to be considered a material change of circumstance that would alone justify a change to existing parenting arrangements.

BC PARENTAL ALIENATION LAWYER -SHOULD THE CHILDREN SUFFERING FROM PARENTAL ALIENATION BE MADE TO VISIT THE TARGET PARENT?

Friday, October 1st, 2010

Lorne MacLean BC Child Custody Lawyer Celebrates Julie's 25th Anniversary at his Firm


All professionals involved in child custody cases agree it is important to involve a lawyer familiar with parental alienation syndrome, one judge to manage the case and a psychological expert with specialized knowledge as early in the process of a suspected case of Parental Alienation Syndrome as is possible. We handle a number of these cases and are familiar with the warning signs and the types of alienators that may exist whether it be a naive alienator or an active alienator and whether the PAS is mild moderate or severe and what other hypotheses need to be explored such as estrangement or enmeshment.
One thing you will learn very rapidly is that there are a variety of opinions on this contentious issue from one side who says PAS does not exist to the other end of the spectrum where experts say it exists in the majority of cases!

Call Lorne MacLean at 1-877-602-9900 to get an objective opinion on whether your case involves Parental Alienation Syndrome.

CURRENT CONTROVERSIES REGARDING PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME
Richard A. Warshak, Ph.D.
SHOULD CHILDREN BE FORCED TO SPEND TIME WITH THE TARGET PARENT?

By far the most controversial issue in the PAS literature is the recommendation of enforced access between children and their alienated parents and reduction of access between the children and the parent promulgating the alienation.

In the majority of cases of moderate PAS, Gardner recommends that the court award primary custody to the alienating parent, appoint a therapist for the family, and enforce the child’s contact with the target parent through the threat and imposition (if necessary) of sanctions applied to the alienating parent (33). Such sanctions are similar to those the court would use against a parent who is in contempt for failure to pay court-ordered alimony or child support. The sanctions include a continuum from requiring the posting of a bond, fines, community service, probation, house arrest, to short-term incarceration. Some states grant courts the power to suspend a contemnor’s driver’s license or order public service duty. Turkat notes that the absence of such sanctions has allowed parents to interfere with visitation and flaunt court orders with impunity (86).

The goals of therapy with children suffering from moderate PAS are to foster healthy contact with the target parent and to assist children in developing and maintaining differentiated views of their parents as opposed to polarized views of one parent as all good and the other as all bad. One way to get children involved with the rejected parent is to take the decision about contact out of the children’s hands, reminding them of the possible sanctions against the preferred parent for resisting court-ordered contact, and thereby giving them an excuse to spend time with the target. The therapist also tries to help the children appreciate that their animosity has been influenced by programming which has undermined their ability to reach conclusions on the basis of their own direct experiences with the target. Some authors compare this aspect of treatment with the “deprogramming” that is used with cult victims to help counteract the effects of indoctrination (29, 33).

In some cases of moderate PAS, when the parent is more intensively programming the children and there is a high risk of the alienation becoming more severe, Gardner recommends a different legal approach. In such cases he recommends that courts consider awarding primary custody to the alienated parent and extremely restricted contact between the alienating parent and child, in order to prevent further indoctrination. Similarly, in the most severe cases of PAS (which, in Gardner’s experience, comprise about 5-10 percent of all PAS cases), Gardner recommends that the court remove the children from the home of the alienating parent.

Because children with severe PAS will not generally comply with court orders, and the programming parent cannot be relied upon to facilitate contact with the target parent, and because courts are reluctant to place children with a parent they appear frightened of, Gardner recommends temporary placement of the children in a transitional site before reintegrating the children in the home of the target parent. Possible transitional sites range from least restrictive to most restrictive, depending on the amount of control necessary to ensure the children’s cooperation and the alienating parent’s compliance with court orders. Such sites include the home of a relative or friend, a foster home, a community shelter, or a hospital. Gardner makes a good case for the transitional program, but he has had little direct experience with it, mainly due to courts’ general hesitance to implement it (3). Rand, however, describes some success with it (2).

In addition to serving as transitional sites, the threat of temporary placement in a foster home, community shelter, or juvenile detention center may induce children to cooperate with court-ordered visitation. With older children (ages 11-16) who refuse visits with the alienated parent, Gardner suggests the possibility of finding the child in contempt of court (4). This recommendation has met with the most opposition.

One author who objects to enforced visitation argued that a contempt finding for a child who refuses visitation is strictly punitive in nature and counterproductive (87). The concern is that such actions will reinforce the child’s hatred of the alienated parent. Instead, this author recommends that the court examine why a child resists contact with a parent and rely on family counseling and supervised visitation as a first step in repairing the child’s relationship with the alienated parent: “Instead of punishing them for their feelings, we need to work with them to help them understand the value of a relationship with their parent” (87; p. 95). Gardner, on the other hand, warns against unnecessary indulging of children’s visitation refusal (3). He believes that the best way to reverse alienation is to provide a child with direct experiences which can counteract negative programming and correct the child’s distorted perceptions of the target parent.

One problem with supervised visitation is the message it can send to a child: It can suggest that the child’s fears of the target parent are rational and that the court agrees that the child needs some sort of protection from the alienated parent. Thus, rather than increase the child’s security around that parent, it may reinforce the child’s uneasiness. The AC model makes a similar point (25).

The importance of separating the child from the alienating parent, and ensuring the child’s exposure to the target parent, is consistent with treatment methods for victims of brainwashing, including prisoners of war and members of cults. Clawar and Rivlin report on the similarities between the methods used by cult leaders to control their followers and the manipulations of alienating parents (29). Brainwashing scholars have identified the victim’s dependence on the programmer and isolation from the target as critical conditions for successful indoctrination. These conditions must be removed for effective deprogramming to take place.

The results of the ABA-sponsored study support a firmer approach to enforcing parent-child contact. The study reported, “One of the most powerful tools the courts have is the threat and implementation of environmental modification. Of the approximately four hundred cases we have seen where the courts have increased the contact with the target parent (and in half of these, over the objection of the children), there has been positive change in 90 percent of the relationships between the child and the target parent, including the elimination or reduction of many social-psychological, educational, and physical problems that the child presented prior to the modification” (29; p. 150).

Gardner’s recent follow-up study of 99 children diagnosed with PAS found a strong association between environmental modification and reduction in PAS symptoms (76). In 22 instances, the alienated child’s contact with the rejected parent was increased and contact with the alienating parent was decreased. In all 22 cases, PAS symptoms were reduced or eliminated. By contrast, only 9% of the children (7 out of 77) whose contact with the rejected parent was not increased by the court, showed a reduction in PAS symptoms. This study also provides a beginning understanding of the factors that lead alienated children to initiate their own reconciliation with the rejected parent. Further study along these lines may assist decision-makers in determining which children might not require environmental modification in order to recover from PAS. The large sample and the statistical test of significance allowed by this size sample make this an important study. Nevertheless, its limitations must be noted, chiefly that the children were not interviewed, the only informant for the follow-up was the rejected parent, and the interviews were conducted by a clinician who had formulated the hypothesis being tested.

Other treatment approaches to severe PAS have been reported in the clinical literature, but in general such approaches have met with failure. Dunne and Hedrick published a clinical study of 16 severe PAS cases (41). The court ordered a custody change and/or strict limitation of contact between the alienating parent and the children in only three of these cases. In all three cases PAS was eliminated. The other 13 cases were treated with various, less restrictive interventions, ranging from individual or conjoint therapy for the parents, therapy for the children with either the alienating parent or target parent, or the assignment of a Guardian Ad Litem. In none of these cases was the PAS eliminated. Two cases showed “some” or “minimal” improvement, nine showed no improvement, and two were worse after the interventions.

This study has significant limitations. The sample size is small. Details are not provided about the methods used to analyze clinical case material. As is typical in clinical research with small samples, no statistical analyses were conducted to document that the findings were not due to chance. Nevertheless, the 100% correspondence between elimination of severe PAS and transfer of custody does provide some evidence in support of this intervention.

Lampel analyzed clinical case studies on 18 families, out of which seven children were described as rejecting a father who had no objectively noted parental dysfunction (48). Such children could be classified as moderately to severely alienated. The therapists conceptualized the children’s rejection of the father as a phobia with hysterical features and tried two different approaches commonly used to treat phobias.

The first approach, used with six children, included individual therapy sessions with the child followed by gradually increasing times with the father both in and out of the therapist’s office. Sessions were also held for the mother, both individually and jointly with the child, for the father, and for both parents and child jointly. This approach is similar to Gardner’s recommended treatment for moderate PAS cases.

The second approach, used with one child, is similar to Gardner’s recommendation for severe PAS. The child was placed with the father for six to eight weeks while the therapist provided individual therapy sessions for the child and parents, and joint sessions with the child and father. This child was the only one of the seven children whose symptoms reduced markedly. The children whose treatment did not include placement with the rejected father experienced results varying from minor improvement to deterioration. In three cases the treatment was regarded as a clear failure. Lampel attributed the failures to the mothers’ “collusive involvement” with their children. Again, although this is a very small sample, the results support the effectiveness of placing the child with the alienated parent.

Naturally, treatment approaches to PAS will benefit from more and higher quality research. Given the limitations in the available studies, some might dismiss the current professional literature as too inadequate to serve as an authoritative guide to decisions for alienated children. But no study is free of limitations. The issue is whether the limitations render the study useless. The peer review process, though no guarantee of a study’s lasting value, is designed to weed out studies whose flaws outweigh their contributions.

Courts and clinicians face decisions about alienated children on a daily basis. These decisions can draw on the best available information, while duly noting its limitations, and thereby benefit from the experience of the families reflected in the published reports. Or the decisions can ignore this information. At this point in time, all the published findings on treatment outcomes support the effectiveness of enforcing contact between the child and alienated parent and no findings oppose this policy. When all available studies point to the same conclusion, it makes sense to pay attention to that conclusion, while allowing for the possibility that the circumstances of any single case may dictate an alternative treatment approach. Indeed, an emerging consensus among mental health professionals supports the idea that “court orders for continued contact are the cornerstone for treatment” of PAS cases (30; p. 309). Similarly, Stahl refers to “general agreement” that recommendations should include “forced consistent time between the child and the alienated parent” (88; p. 6).

But no consensus has been reached on the proposal for courts to consider a transfer of custody (as opposed to enforced contact) in severe PAS cases. Some have expressed the concern that alienated children are ill-equipped to cope with the change in custody, and that they could be seriously harmed (23). Although this possibility must be entertained, if this were a likely outcome, one would expect to see reports in the professional literature; to date there is no published documentation of such harm. Some allegations that harm has resulted from custody transfer may actually be misrepresentations promulgated by embittered litigants. Nevertheless, some clinicians advise parents of severely alienated children to accept the loss of their children while maintaining hope for future reconciliation (88).

Based on their ABA-sponsored study, Clawar and Rivlin conclude, “Caution must be exercised in judging that the point of no return has been reached. We have seen numerous cases where children have been successfully deprogrammed by making radical changes in their living arrangements—often with appropriate legal interventions” (29; p. 144). As they explain it, “There are risks incumbent in any process; however, a decision has to be made as to what is the greater risk. It is usually more damaging socially, psychologically, educationally, and/or physically for children to maintain beliefs, values, thoughts, and behaviors that disconnect them from one of their parents (or from telling the truth, as in a criminal case) compared to getting rid of the distortions or false statements” [emphasis in the original] (29; p. 141).

MacLean Family Law Group-BC’s Family Law Firm Celebrates Julie Dadgar’s 25th Anniversary with Our Firm

Wednesday, September 29th, 2010

MacLean Family law Group Celebrates Julie's 25th Anniversary

We are delighted to have had our first employee, Julie Dadgar, reach her 25th Anniversary with us. She has been a joy to work with and has been an integral part pf helping us grow our firm and better focus on our clients!

BC CHILD CUSTODY AND ACCESS TIPS-HOW TO PROMOTE A HEALTHY POST CHILD AND PARENT OUTCOME-MAXIMUM CONTACT

Wednesday, September 22nd, 2010


10 WAYS TO HELP YOUR CHILDREN DURING DIVORCE
1. Show your children that you still love them.
Spend time with them; show them affection; be ready and willing to listen when they want to share their feelings with you.
2. Encourage your children to respect and love their other parent.
Give your children permission to love their other parent. Don’t talk negatively about your ex to your children. Share positive memories of your married life.
3. Don’t burden your children with adult problems.
Although your children may have to assume extra responsibilities around the house after the divorce, never forget that they aren’t adults yet. Be careful not to burden them with your financial or emotional worries – this is too scary for them. Assure them that no matter what, everything will be okay.
4. Try to agree with your ex on the basics.
If you and your former spouse are sharing custody, try to agree on curfews, disciplines, and grades. However, if you decide on different rules, don’t complain about it to your children or argue with your spouse unless his/her parenting style is clearly doing emotional or physical harm to your children.
5. Make your children feel at home in your new place.
Allow children to help you decorate and create a space that is all their own within your new home. Maintain a supply of toiletries, clothes, and toys at each residence.
6. Avoid manipulation.
Avoid arguing with your former spouse in front of your children, using your children as go-betweens if you are fighting with your ex, or trying to prevent your ex from seeing your children.
7. Keep your promises.
Keeping agreed upon visits and/or phone call times will help children feel their lives are more predictable. Give as much notice as possible if you need to change your plans.
8. Wait to date.
Avoid bringing home dates before or right after your divorce is final. Wait until you are dating someone regularly to introduce them to your children because children can become emotionally attached to new parent figures and suffer if the relationships end.
9. Make your children’s lives stable and predictable.
Maintain as many routines, rules, and traditions as you can. Serve meals at the same time, do homework at the same time, maintain the same standards for discipline.
10. Avoid the “Super Parent” syndrome.
If you feel guilty about the effect of the divorce on the children or competitive with their other parent, don’t try to compensate for these feelings by lavishing the children with gifts, trips, money or by becoming over-protective.
AFCC

BC PARENTING COORDINATION and COORDINATOR UPDATE

Wednesday, July 28th, 2010

Shelagh Kinney Family Mediator Vancouver and Fort St John BC

BC Parenting Coordination in British Columbia child custody cases is an emerging alternative BC family law dispute resolution process in which a BC lawyer or British Columbia mental health professional with BC mediation training and experience assists BC parents to implement their parenting plan by facilitating the resolution of their disputes in a timely manner, educating parents about children’s needs and, with prior approval of the parties and/or the court, making decisions within the scope of the court order or appointment contract.

BC Parenting coordination may be of assistance in “high conflict” cases dealing with BC child custody related issues where parents have demonstrated a chronic inability to resolve conflicts about the children and bring frequent contested court applications regarding BC parenting issues.

Parenting coordination is not therapy or counseling for any family member, nor a formal custody evaluation or assessment. Although the Parenting Coordinator (“PC”) may act as a mediator to try to assist the parents to reach agreement on issues, parenting coordination is not only mediation as the PC will also have the ability to make certain decisions if the parties do not agree. The PC is appointed for a defined term, and the fees for the PCs services will be allocated between the parents by agreement or order.

Some examples of parental disputes settled by a PC include:

1. parenting time schedules, including regular access, holidays and vacations, temporary variations for special events, travel and passport arrangements;

2. a child’s recreational activities;

3. education (tutoring, summer school, school choice) or daycare;

4. health care (medical/dental);

5. child rearing issues ( bedtimes, alterations of the child’s appearance such as haircuts and piercings);

6. sharing of special or extraordinary expenses for the children; and

7. forms of communications between parents, including monitoring of emails and other correspondence by the PC if these have been an issue.

Parenting coordination is relatively new in British Columbia. In the United States, several states have statutes authorizing the appointment of PCs, including Oregon, California, Texas, and, most recently, Florida. Although there is currently no statutory authority in British Columbia governing parenting coordination, there have been several reported cases in which PCs have been appointed by a Judge of the Supreme Court of British Columbia.

For the past few years, a group of British Columbia family law lawyers and mental health professionals have been working towards establishing parenting coordination as a new legal mechanism in BC to deal with the unique issues facing high-conflict parents, including providing a roster of PCs under the BC Parenting Coordinators Roster Society.

Lorne MacLean recently defined the rules in BC Supreme Court that should apply to the terms of a parenting coordination contract and you should be aware of what the parenting coordinator can and cannot do. MacLean also warns you need to ensure the Court does not abdicate its’ duty to protect children and not allow one parent to keep the fight over children alive through PC involvement.

If you have any questions on Parenting Coordination please call Shelagh Kinney, family mediator of our offices at 604-602-9000 who has taken the Parenting Coordinator training and courses related to this area from Joan Kelly as well as arbitration training.

BC CHILD CUSTODY- PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME

Tuesday, July 13th, 2010

It is important to deal with Parental Alienation Issues Urgently


BC child custody lawyers need to be aware of the the continuum of parental alienation and parental alienation syndrome that can include, alienation, estrangement and enmeshment. As Vancouver BC child custody lawyers we are aware of the following indicators of PAS:

“In another study ( defining the strategies of alienating parents ), Baker and
Darnell ( 2006 ) identify as many as 1,300 actions, categorized into 66 strategies.
These strategies are summarized into seven groups, plus a catch-all
miscellaneous group:

1. Badmouthing ( e.g. qualities, portrayed as dangerous, mean, abandoning;
using the rejected parent’s first name with the child instead of ” Mom or Dad “,
etc);

2. Limiting / interfering with parenting time ( e.g., moving away, arranging
activities during scheduled time with rejected parent, calling during contact,
giving child ” choice ” about whether to have contact, etc.);

3. Limiting / interfering with mail or phone contact ( blocking, intercepting, or
monitoring calls and mail, etc.);

4. Limiting / interfering with symbolic contact ( limiting mentioning, no photographs,
having child call someone else ” Mom ” or ” Dad “; changing child’s name, etc.);

5. Interfering with information ( e.g., refusing to communicate, using child as
messenger not giving important school and medical information, etc.);

6. Emotional manipulation ( e.g., withdrawing love, inducing guilt, interrogating child,
forcing child to choose/express loyalty or reject, rewarding for rejection, etc.);

7. Unhealthy alliance ( e.g., fostering dependency, child having to spy, keep secrets,
etc);

8. Miscellaneous ( e.g., badmouthing to friends, teachers, doctors, interfering with
the child’s counlsling , creating conflict between child and rejected parent, etc.). ”

If you suspect any of the above criteria are part of your child custody case or you are unfairly being accused of alienating a child call us immediately at 1-877-602-9900.

BC SHARED CHILD CUSTODY AND BC JOINT GUARDIANSHIP SUCCESS STORY

Tuesday, July 13th, 2010

Lorne MacLean and James Macdonnell Celebrate their Child Custody Victory in Victoria


Lorne MacLean, BC divorce lawyer,is delighted to have just won a BC shared child custody, reduced child support and BC joint and shared guardianship case. We just obtained the written reasons on a BC shared child custody and BC child Guardianship success we had on behalf of a father who wanted his children to be able to spend half of their time with him on a shared custody arrangement. We used a number of BC shared child custody case authorities and social science articles to successfully prevail for our client and his children. We focused on the positives in both parents and how well the children were doing and persuaded the court our BC shared child custody plan made the most sense moving forward. The key point to note is that week on week off custody can work when both parents work full time and there should be no bias against shared custody even if one parent is a stay at home parent while the other works full time.

Read the case and take a look at how we crafted the successful argument on behalf of our client and his children.

Metivier Reasons


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