http://www.bcfamilylaw.ca/2005/02/12/restrictive-retroactive-child-support-guidelines-decision-could-spell-disaster-for-children-and-for-family-lawyers-who-fail-to-include-annual-child-support-reviews/ Tue, 10 Jan 2012 05:30:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://www.bcfamilylaw.ca/2005/02/12/restrictive-retroactive-child-support-guidelines-decision-could-spell-disaster-for-children-and-for-family-lawyers-who-fail-to-include-annual-child-support-reviews/comment-page-1/#comment-17 Cheryle Mauthe Tue, 17 Feb 2009 20:02:40 +0000 http://www.bcfamilylaw.ca/2005/02/12/restrictive-retroactive-child-support-guidelines-decision-could-spell-disaster-for-children-and-for-family-lawyers-who-fail-to-include-annual-child-support-reviews/#comment-17 What if the recipient was bullied throughout the marriage, bullied throughout the divorce & separation, and continues to be bullied even 12 yrs after the divorce? I was afraid to ever ask my ex for anything for fear of the response. Although our original order, dated 1996, states that it should be adjusted every October, this was never done. He would never offer, and I was afraid to ask for anything more. I have since been told that retroactive support would not be granted as it is my responsibility to seek it. If I had done so, my ex would have made my life hell, and said/done things to upset my young daughter. I was pressured for 2 years to let my daughter go live with her Dad. I gave in last August (she is 14)I have since been told that I didn't have to let her go, that it is an urban myth that children can choose from the age of 12. Fat lot of good this does me now. He is demanding child support from me in the amount that he had to pay (he now makes $80,000+, old order is based on $57,000/yr). I am not in a position to pay for a lawyer, I am unemployed and was advised by a "Law Referral" lawyer to pay him support assuming that I am working a min. wage job, fulltime. I am scared, confused, frustrated with hours spent on line never finding anyone who is in my position. I need help and don't know where to turn. Any assistance/info would be greatly appreciated. What if the recipient was bullied throughout the marriage, bullied throughout the divorce & separation, and continues to be bullied even 12 yrs after the divorce? I was afraid to ever ask my ex for anything for fear of the response. Although our original order, dated 1996, states that it should be adjusted every October, this was never done. He would never offer, and I was afraid to ask for anything more. I have since been told that retroactive support would not be granted as it is my responsibility to seek it. If I had done so, my ex would have made my life hell, and said/done things to upset my young daughter.
I was pressured for 2 years to let my daughter go live with her Dad. I gave in last August (she is 14)I have since been told that I didn’t have to let her go, that it is an urban myth that children can choose from the age of 12. Fat lot of good this does me now. He is demanding child support from me in the amount that he had to pay (he now makes $80,000+, old order is based on $57,000/yr).
I am not in a position to pay for a lawyer, I am unemployed and was advised by a “Law Referral” lawyer to pay him support assuming that I am working a min. wage job, fulltime.
I am scared, confused, frustrated with hours spent on line never finding anyone who is in my position. I need help and don’t know where to turn. Any assistance/info would be greatly appreciated.

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